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Writer's pictureDr David Wilkinson

Trying To Conceive: The Waiting Game

Updated: May 30, 2023

After all, you have been through trying to conceive; there is the two-week waiting phase until your pregnancy test to stretch your patience again!

Suddenly, during this phase, many people become hyper-aware of any changes and sensations they experience, wondering if it could indicate something either one way or the other. My best advice is to try to relax and distract yourself.

These two weeks are considered the final phase of IVF. The luteal phase is the period between embryo transfer and the pregnancy test. These two weeks would be equivalent to a non-stimulated (normal) 28-day cycle between days 15 and 28.

What happens to your body when you conceive?

Progesterone and/or estrogen medication are working in your body to help produce the same levels of hormones that would normally occur naturally in the early stages of pregnancy. These also help prepare the lining of the uterus for implantation. Once transferred, the embryo must implant itself into the uterine lining, usually on about day 20 of the cycle, and then continue to grow into a fetus for pregnancy.

The hormone medication given to you to optimise your body for pregnancy may impact you emotionally and physically. You may feel more prone to tears, anxiety and irritability. You may also experience some cramping, spotting or light bleeding, abdominal bloating, fatigue, and breast tenderness. While any change can be alarming, they are normally fine and do not indicate whether you are pregnant or not. However, any extreme symptoms should be reported to your doctor immediately.


How long after sex can you take a pregnancy test?

It takes about 10 days for all traces of the hormone you used as the trigger to be cleared from your body and, in turn, for less than 10 per cent of it to show up in a blood test. This is why we wait 14 days to ensure the new pregnancy produces enough of the hormone hCG (human chorionic gonadotropin) to be detected in a blood test. This is the most accurate indication of pregnancy. It is important to note that this may not be the case for a frozen embryo transfer cycle, as the hCG trigger injection may not be used with all patients. I do not recommend home pregnancy tests before the two-week mark as they can deliver false results, both positive and negative. One reason for this is that the hCG injection is given to mature and release the eggs and, as a booster, can give a false positive urine test, which only adds to the emotional rollercoaster. Two weeks is generally when we can have confidence in the results, whether the patient has undertaken a fresh or frozen embryo transfer.


What to do after sex to conceive?

  • Limit activity for the first 24 hours after transfer.

  • Gradually increase activity over the next few days to non-strenuous non-aerobic activity and return to work when ready – your treating specialist will guide you if you are unsure.

  • Eat healthily and stay hydrated.

  • Keep busy by planning meaningful or fun distractions.

  • Practise your favourite relaxation activity to keep stress levels down.

  • Set aside a time slot each day (15-30 minutes) to think about your journey and write down your thoughts or discuss them with someone. This may help you to stay aware of and process the range of feelings (i.e. fear, excitement etc.) that often occur during this time.

  • If you are feeling overwhelmed by the range of emotions or are finding it exceptionally hard to deal with the stress of waiting and not coping, you are not on your own. Call your treating specialist, IVF nurse or counsellor for help. You can also get in touch with support groups such as Access Australia www.access.org.au.

When is my due date?

Your obstetrician will determine the expected birth date for the baby. This is determined from the start of your last menstrual cycle. Your first pregnancy ultrasound is then usually scheduled for between 6 and 7 weeks of gestational age.

If you are not pregnant, what are the next steps?

If you have a negative pregnancy result, we will work closely with you to support you during this time. Your nurse will advise you to stop your medications and meet with your specialist to review your past cycle and decide together on the next best steps.

Dr David Wilkinson is Parents You've Got This Fertility and IVF Expert from City Fertility. Dr David is a fully accredited fertility subspecialist (FRANZCOG CREI phD) with extensive experience in all aspects of infertility diagnosis and treatment. Dr David presents at Parents You've Got This Preparing for Pregnancy Masterclass.


Couple trying to conceive checking pregnancy test





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